Some guidance about Honouring your Child

If you are here, it is because you are experiencing unimaginable grief. We at LOLA are so sorry for your loss.

For parents who have suffered the loss of their baby, it can be helpful to honour the short time you had with your child by creating a special place or object which marks your love for them.

Finding ways to honour your baby may help you to process your grief. It may also provide you with a tangible space to visit, touch, and just be with your baby.

Honouring your child in some way may also help you to convey to those around you that your baby is not forgotten, and will always be loved and deeply missed, no matter how short their life.

There are many different things you can do to honour your child, whether it is by printing and framing a picture, asking your midwife for hand and foot prints for your baby, creating or engraving a piece of jewellery, making a memory box of the special things you have for your baby, arranging a memorial bench in a place that you love or a quiet space where you can be with your baby, creating a memory garden or planting something which is meaningful for you, and which gives you joy each time you see it.

Your hospital may also offer help with remembering and honouring your child through a remembrance book or regular remembrance services.

Many generous people have already created a host of websites sharing the many special ways you might consider honouring your child and we have listed some of them below for you.


Remember My Baby are a UK based registered charity who have professional photographers volunteering their photography services for the benefit of UK parents losing their baby before, during or shortly after birth.


Cherished Gowns UK is a registered charity that provide the families with items of clothing that babies can be dressed in for their funeral.


Liberty Rainne produce personalised keepsakes for families, including weatherproof items that can be kept at gravesides.


When You Wish Upon a Star produce a range of foil prints including of hand and foot prints.


Aching Arms provide teddy bears to families whose baby has died.


The Harvey Hext Trust provide unique, bespoke and personalised memory boxes for siblings of children who have died.

4Louis provide memory boxes for stillbirth, neonatal, infant and child death.