LOLA aims to help parents and anyone else affected by the loss of a baby to find helpful information.
For parents, you can find advice on how to heal, as well as advice on relationships with the people around you following the loss of your baby. Just click on Mums or Partners & Dads for more help.
For family members and friends who are grieving following the loss of a baby and trying to find ways to support the parents of a stillborn child, you can click on Grandparents, Other Family or Friends and get advice and guidance.
Friends and co-workers trying to find ways to support the parents of a stillborn child and cope with their own grief and shock can also find information on ways they can help, no matter how near or far they are.
If you are a Health Professional, we’ve also got a page for you, with resources and information you can use to support bereaved parents and families.
Let Us Help You Get Support
We at LOLA recognise you may want to find more information to help you cope with the loss of your child. Here, you can find links to websites which provide additional information and support for anyone affected by pregnancy loss and related issues.
To get targeted support, look at the list of organisations and charities under each tab: Infertility, Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Antenatal tests, Neonatal care and Infant death.
If you need urgent help to cope with the distress you are experiencing as a result of your loss, please get in touch with the Samaritans. They offer support to anyone who is overwhelmed and in need of support or guidance about any issue at all. Contact may be made by email or over the telephone. //www.samaritans.org/
If you need urgent medical help and you are based in the United Kingdom, the following 24-hour nurse helplines are recommended:
- in England and Wales: NHS Direct on 0845 46 47 or visit //www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk
- in Scotland: NHS 24 on 08454 24 24 24 or visit //www.nhs24.com
- in Northern Ireland, visit Health Care Northern Ireland at //www.n-i.nhs.uk/
Our resources here at LOLA don’t allow us to offer more direct support for you right now, and we’re sorry about that. You are welcome to contact us with feedback and comments on our website, which we welcome.
Find Out More About Infertility
We at LOLA understand that, alongside your deep grief, you may also be worried about what the future holds. For some, assisted conception and concerns about infertility may also be relevant. To help you find additional support, we’ve listed some websites and other resources you may find helpful.
Find Out More About Miscarriage
We at LOLA know from experience that suffering a miscarriage is devastating. The loss of a baby in those early, precious weeks of pregnancy can be a deep and scarring loss. It can also be frightening and lonely.
Find Out More About Neonatal Care
We at LOLA understand that some of the parents and families who find themselves here may be facing the strain of premature birth, or neonatal care for their sick baby. To help you find additional support, we’ve listed some websites and other resources you may find helpful below.
Becoming a mum whose baby has died is a devastating shock. It can also feel terribly lonely. We have shared some of stories of other mums who have experienced the deep grief you are going through right now in the hope they will bring you even a little comfort.
For a partner whose baby has died, the loss is shocking. It is likely to bring with it both a deep sense of grief and an overwhelming desire to support and protect your partner. Here, you can find stories of other partners, be they dads or also mums themselves, who have experienced the deep grief you are going through right now.
Being a family member of someone who has lost a baby can be complex and difficult. While experiencing your own grief at the loss of the baby, you will also be wondering what you can do for the parents who have lost their child. Here, you can read the stories of other family members who have shared similar experiences to you, which we hope will bring you comfort.
Being the friend of someone who has lost a baby can be hard. You are likely to feel incredibly sad following the death of your friend’s baby. You may also be wondering what you can do for the parents who have lost their child. Here, you can read the stories of a range of friends – those who are near or living far away, old friends and new friends, and more – who have shared similar experiences to the one you are going through right now.