If you’re reading this it is likely because you, or someone close to you, has lost a much-loved baby. We at The LOLA Project are so very sorry you are here. We understand the indescribable loss you are feeling, and the depth of your pain.
Our aims are to provide you with:
- Support, when you are ready, to take your first steps towards wellbeing after losing a baby. This is especially so for mums, but also for others who are affected by loss.
- Help in finding information about baby loss, whether you are a mum, dad, grandparent, sibling, aunt, uncle, cousin, friend, or work colleague who is affected by the loss of a baby.
For Mums, we hope this space will offer you support with things like giving birth to a stillborn child so that you know what to expect, as well tips and information on your health and well-being to help you recover from the enormous grief you are feeling and the physical stress you are going through. The site gives you useful information on therapies you might find helpful and provides you with access to downloadable Yoga and Pilates classes, which have been prepared by qualified practitioners specifically with you – mums who have given birth to stillborn children – in mind, to help you deal with your physical wellbeing post-natally, while also taking account of your deep and intense grief.
For Partners, whether you are dads or mums as well, we at LOLA hope this project will help you with some of the other practical things that you may take the lead in managing at this time, such as planning a funeral for your baby (if that is something you decide to do), or managing a return to work. The site also aims give you practical guidance on finding extra help for yourself or your partner, should you need it.
For Grandparents, other Family and friends, LOLA is intended to help you to understand your own grief, as well as help you to provide support – whether you live near or far from the baby’s parents – and when you might feel at a loss as to what you can do.
LOLA also has personal stories of other parents, their family members and friends for you all to read in the hope that, if you do, you may feel less alone. And it has links to other useful resources, including the wonderful range of charities offering different types of support that you may find helpful to retreat to, and books you may find it helpful to read.
Health professionals and co-workers can also find guidance which is relevant to them. For health professionals, The LOLA Project offers you information on supporting parents who have lost a baby as well as links to professional networks that you may find useful. For co-workers who don’t know what to say or do when their colleague returns to work, LOLA provides some guidance on things that are helpful, and less helpful, to say to any mum or dad who has lost a baby, when they return.
Finally, The LOLA Project has information for anyone of you looking for extra support under the Get Support section; which provides links to charities who you can get in touch with and who have the knowledge and expertise to help you, no matter what stage of pregnancy or parenthood you have lost a child.
At the time we lost Lola, had The LOLA Project been around, it might have helped us to find practical information on topics related to the loss of a baby and help us with all of the things we suddenly needed to think about and do.
It might also have helped Lola’s mum, dad, relatives and friends find ways to help them recover from the physical impact and emotional shock and sadness they were feeling because she was gone.
We hope you will find this space an easy-to-use and helpful source for the practical information you are seeking, while you are suffering so much.
We hope, now that The LOLA Project is here, it will support you in your time of extreme need. And with the help of our incredible practitioners – and Lola – we hope you might, in your own time, begin to recover.
And for our dear Lola, e te mōkai, aroha nui ki a koe. Haere atu rā, e hine, ki tō moenga roa. Kāre rawa koe e warewaretia. Much love to you, our dear little one. Go now, to your eternal rest. You will never be forgotten.